Making love should be a pleasurable experience for both partners, but there are times when it may be necessary to stroke more than the other person's pleasure zones. Sometimes if you love someone, it's necessary to stroke their ego as well, especially if they want to make love and for whatever reason you don't feel like it and are only going along for the ride.
The truth is, you love them and don't want to hurt their feelings, so you have to come up with a plan to make it seem like you are enjoying the whole thing just as much as they are. It's not that you want to be dishonest, but it is better than rejecting them and making them think you are mad at them or don't desire them. In reality, you are faking it because you love them so much!
There is also the chance that even though you aren't in the mood and may be planning on faking it, which before things are said and done, your partner may be able to get you into the mood and it may surprise you that you do get excited and end up not having to fake it at all! You should never give up a chance for this, as making love can surprise you when you think you can't even think of doing it because you are too tired or too busy.
Many is the time when I woke up in the morning to see my husband with a huge hard on and that look in his eyes when all I really wanted to do was go back to sleep. But I put on my best come hither look and went along with him and we made love. Sometimes I had to fake the final outcome, but there were at least as many times that I actually ended up enjoying myself after all. I can honestly say that at least a few times, the experience where I thought I would have to fake it actually became one of the best times of my life!
If you do end up faking it, be sure not to make it so obvious that it is happening. Don't do stupid moaning or other antics that are over the top and will be completely obvious unless you really think your lover is stupid. If you fail and he figures it out, it could just make him angry and that is worse than you telling him you aren't in the mood at all in the first place!
The best way to handle it is to try to put yourself into the mood and make an effort to not seem like you are going through the motions. You can wiggle your hips, and at least make your partner feel good by stroking his penis or balls, scratching his back, holding him tight, telling him you love him, etc. This will make the experience one that can bring you both closer together whether or not you have an orgasm or not.
While women can usually manage to fake an orgasm at least some of the time, it's a pretty difficult thing for a man to fake it. Most women can feel when a guy comes inside of her, and if you don't feel that gush of wetness or have it dripping out of you when it's done, then there is no way he came. Plus, a guy has to be erect to make love in the first place and there is no way to fake an erect penis, so if he isn't in the mood you are going to know it pretty quick!
All in all, the bottom line is that there are times when faking it can be a good way to save face and save your relationship, but don't do it very often.
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