What to Do When Your Woman Doesn't Want Oral Sex Performed on Her

You want to give your woman pleasure and you know you can do it through oral sex, but she will not allow you to go ahead and show her how you can make her feel. This is frustrating because all you want to do is to make her feel good!

There are many different reasons why a woman will not let you go ahead and give her oral sex. One thing that it does not have anything to do with is withholding oral sex from you on purpose. She wants you to make her feel good and she is not purposely denying you the feeling that making her feel good would give you.

Trust me, she wants you to feel good about yourself and feel like you can pleasure her. But there is another barrier that is in the way of allowing you to do so.

I can't personally say which barrier she is putting up and why, but you can ask her which one of the following reasons may apply to her and because you have taken interest into the real reasons behind her denying you oral sex she may choose to open up and tell you exactly what her fears and concerns are about the whole situation.

Here are a few of the reasons she may be denying oral sex and a few suggestions on how to deal with it:

1. She's Worried What You Will Think When You Are Down There

This is probably the most common reason. Women are not always comfortable with their own bodies and especially their private regions. The worry about the taste, smell, and even appearance of their vagina and they don't want to turn you off of them completely, so instead they choose not to let you give them oral sex.

You can try assuring her that you love the way she smells, tastes, or looks down there. If you say it enough times, with conviction, then she may start to believe it and allow you to give her oral pleasure without worrying about what you are thinking.

If you don't have proof that you love the taste, smell, or look than assure her that you love her and you love her whole body without judgment. She may eventually allow you to go down. But remember that she will be watching your every move and listening to your every noise for a sign of disgust. If you accidently give off a sign then she will immediately halt oral sex and may deny you from doing it again. So be aware of your noises and movements.

You can also reassure her that every woman looks different down there and that she is unique and amazing to you. Most women do not realize that the way their vagina looks is okay and unique to them. Not all women's vagina's are created equal!

2. It Hasn't Felt Good In The Past

She may not want to give you access down there because the last time she had oral sex it did not feel good. In fact it may have downright hurt her! This is common when women do not know their own bodies and know how to direct men during oral sex, and it is also common when men do not know how to give their women oral pleasure.

You can fix this by assuring her that you have read up on how to please a woman orally and you have picked up some skills that will cause her pleasure and not pain. Tell her that she can tell you if it hurts or feels bad and you will adjust and do something else.

The rub here is that you will actually have to have read up and learn some pleasure-giving skills! If you haven't, and you end up hurting her again, then she may not trust you a second time.

You can also allow her to figure out what feels good by buying her a vibrator and encouraging her to use it on herself. Once she knows the right spots and pressure that makes her feel good she will be more able to direct you to those spots and adjust your pressure.

3. She's Been Abused

The statistics for women who have been sexually abused is shocking. It's no wonder that these women don't always want to allow their men to get up close and personal with areas of their bodies that are sensitive and have been used against their will.

In this case she may need help getting through her fear of abuse and the feelings attached to that fear. She will have to do that on her on.

All you can do is offer her the love and support of a good man and assure her that you will never hurt her in that way - ever. This means that you can't force yourself on her physically or mentally ever. If you do then you will lose her trust completely and will never get a chance to prove yourself to her.

Don't constantly badger her to give her oral sex but instead let her know that you want to pleasure her in every way you can. She will have to come around to allowing you to give her oral sex on her own.

Bellaisa is the owner of pleasure her tonight a website with relationship advice for men on dating, sex, and relationship issues. Learn how to please a woman orally and become a man that every woman wants.

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How to Turn On a Woman Sexually - She Doesn't Get Turned on The Same Way You Do!

Turning on a woman sexually is something that all straight men want to be able to do. And sometimes we trick ourselves into believing that we know how to do this without ever really thinking too deeply on it. The problem with that is, it's not always true. See, most guys learn what they know about turning on a woman from the worst sources. They learn from buddies who know about as much as they do. They learn from movies that are set up to appeal to what guys want to see... not to what really works to turn on a woman.

So, the uncomfortable reality is... most men are not as skilled at turning on a woman sexually as they like to think they are. And what is the reality of not being able to turn on a woman sexually? I think you know the answer to this one. You either won't get nearly as much action as you want or you might end up losing a woman you are dating just because she is not getting the pleasure and satisfaction that she desires from you.

Either way... You LOSE!

Here's a little advice on how to turn a woman on sexually:

1. She does not get turned on by the same things that get you going.

If you take away one tidbit from this article, this should be it. Women don't get turned on by all of the same stuff that men do. So, if you approach trying to turn her on and you do it using techniques and methods that get you going, there is a really good chance that it's NOT doing the trick. You want to really be able to get that chiseled into your mind and make sure that it stays there.

2. The environment plays a big role for her.

One really stark difference that applies to almost all women you are going to meet is... the environment does play a huge role in whether she gets turned on or not. If she is in an environment that she does not quite feel comfortable in, then chances are, it's not going to be a good place to try and get her turned on. For this, you have to get a good feel for her personality, because not every woman likes the same environment. Some are more adventurous than others.

3. Conversation leads to stimulation.

Both men and women can get really turned on by conversation, but for women, it takes a little more than it does for a guy. A woman could just flat out say the words... "I want you" and that would probably be more than enough to get you turned on, right? Well, for most women, you need more than three words. You need to be descriptive and creative. You need to kind of set up an image in her mind, something that she can feel and see.

The more you know about how to turn on a woman, the easier it is to seduce a woman into bed and make HER want YOU...

Go to: How to Seduce Women to Get Your FREE Report on How to Approach, Attract, and Seduce ANY Woman You DESIRE...

Copyright c 2011 Chris Tyler All Rights Reserved.

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4 Ways To Enlarge Your Penis That ACTUALLY WORK - And One Over-Hyped Way That Doesn't Work

There are many penis enlargement techniques - so many in fact it's difficult for men to know what really works and what doesn't work. I'm going to give a quick overview of 4 techniques that actually do work (but only one works well) plus I will tell you which over-hyped technique doesn't work at all.

First, penis pills are probably the most popular of all the penis enlargement techniques - which is ironic because they are the least effective. I think they continue to get sold because men are so anxious to believe in a technique that is SO SIMPLE. However, I'm sorry to tell you that they do NOT work at all! Don't waste your money! It is not biologically possible for a pill to add any mass whatsoever to your penis. These pills will at best give you some temporary extra circulation in and around your penis that may improve your erection very slightly and only temporarily. However, the health hazards that can come with taking them are very real - hazards such as rapid heat beat and heart palpitations. These hazards and the cost of the pills aren't worth the tiny benefit that you may receive - and again, they will NOT make your penis bigger.

Now, there are 4 methods that CAN enlarge your penis. However, there is really only one is a GOOD option and I'll explain what I mean by that as I review each one below.

Penis extenders and similar penis enlargement gadgets may LOOK high tech and may SOUND like they could really add some size (if you don't mind torturing yourself), but you will never gain anywhere near as much as the ads claim and there is a very real possibility you could end up with a very deformed looking penis. In fact, in extreme cases, especially when they're not used correctly (easy to accidentally do) they can actually cause impotence. What is the point of "enlarging" your penis if it is going to look deformed or worse? Plus, these gadgets have been really escalating in price recently and most of them now cost several hundred dollars.

Penis surgery can add length and girth to your penis but both come with serious negatives. Girth is achieved by injecting fat cells into the shaft of the penis. You will get extra girth for a while but in about 6-12 months the fat cells are reabsorbed into the body and you revert back to your original girth - only you also sometimes end up with a very unattractive "lumpy" looking penis. Extra length is achieved by cutting the ligament that attaches the inner portion of your penis to the pubic bone. Cutting this ligament releases a portion of the inner penis to the outside. However, you can also easily end up with a penis that is lose at the base making sex a real challenge and not enjoyable. Plus, it that wasn't enough to deter you from considering surgery, insurance seldom covers these procedures as they are considered cosmetic in almost all cases and the minimum cost is more than $5000 American dollars and can actually go more than $10,000 on the high end.

Jelqing has been gaining popularity on the internet as a method of enlarging the penis. It is an ancient form or penis exercise that is thought to have originated with the ancient Arabic cultures and passed down from older male to younger male for many generations. Essentially it involves "milking" the penis to a semi-erect state but not to the fully erect state - and then doing this repeatedly. This can result in very modest gains in penis size but for a lot less work and time, you can achieve much greater gains with modern penis exercise (see below). It is also easy to damage your penis during jelqing and it has become more common for emergency room attendants to see penis damage due to jelqing.

By far, the best option for penis enlargement is MODERN penis exercise - not jelqing or similar ancient techniques. In fact, the VERY best option within this category is a complete penis exercise program that includes several different exercises that work in conjunction with one another. For length, the very best exercise involves stretching the ligament that attaches the penis to the pubic bone so that part of the inner penis can drop down (not all programs include this one and you want to make sure the program you select does). This must be done in conjunction with tunica stretching so that that there is room in the outer casing of the penis for this happen. Other exercises that have their roots in jelqing type techniques are the best for adding girth but there is more emphasis on periods of rest and also directly enlarging the chambers.

This penis exercise program the penis lengthening technique described above plus 7 other exercises. It is a very modern program that offers video instruction as well as step by step written instructions - video is very helpful because it much easier to know how to do these exercises if you can actually SEE them. The website has a lot more information so you can judge for yourself but I highly recommend you chose this particular penis exercise program over the other popular programs that are available (this one is one of the most popular for good reason).

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